Enable counselling help for domestic violence victims by Apnalaya

Enable counselling help for domestic violence victims

Impact

Nafiza left an abusive home to create a better life for her daughter.

Nafiza married a man whom she loved thinking that she would have a good life ahead. She had no idea how things would turn out.

Very soon, her husband turned abusive. His behaviour did not change even after they had a daughter. He continued to harm Nafiza, and now hurt their daughter too.

He wanted money and did not care how he got it. He convinced Nafiza to be a surrogate mother to childless couples to earn money. He spent all the money on his bad habits and gave nothing to support Nafisa and their daughter.

He forced her to become a surrogate three times. He abused her even during the pregnancies. When he forced her to do it again for the fourth time, she became frightened. She was in poor health and did not want to get pregnant again.

She approached Apnalaya for help. They explained to her what she had to do to get out of the painful situation she was in. They gave her the courage to speak to her husband and bring him along for counselling. The center tried to counsel her husband but their efforts were in vain. He continued to abuse her.

Apnalaya knew that Nafiza needed the support of someone she could trust to keep moving forward. So they encouraged her to tell her brother about the situation.

After Apnalaya spoke to Nafiza’s brother, he convinced her to leave her abusive husband, taking her daughter with her. When she did so, her husband became angry and tried to threaten her at first. When Apnalaya warned him with legal action, he left her alone.

Nafiza is now staying with her brother’s family. She found a job and is able to provide for herself and her daughter. She leads a simple life with dignity and is hopeful for a better future for her daughter.

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About The Program

What the beneficiary gets
Therapy
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Program Description

Family Counseling Centre (FCC) is a haven for victims of exploitation, violence, infidelity, deprivation and blackmail. Here, they find a friend who listens offers advice and helps find the strength within them to fight and win their legal and personal battles.

The objectives of the program are supporting victims of domestic violence and family conflict through Family Counseling, Support Group (Apnapan) meetings, creating community counselors (Sahara Group), and awareness on women's issues. Apnalaya is a government-appointed service provider under the Domestic Violence Act 2005.

Apnalaya trains women to fight domestic violence, conducts awareness sessions and organizes women to come together and help each other. It is completely run through the help of benefactors who donate to Apnalaya's general causes. Today Apnalaya is a pillar of hope for many women. Donate to this program and help Apnalaya to save women from domestic violence.

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About The NGO

Apnalaya
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Apnalaya

Apnalaya is a secular voluntary organization, that has been building self-sustaining communities since 1973. It aims to empower the disadvantaged to overcome the social, political and economic barriers and help them lead a better quality of life. They work with the most marginalized people dwelling in the slums of Mumbai. There are 4,200 children under 6 years of age at the center of Apnalaya’s Health Program.

The Health and Disability related interventions emphasize on empowering community members to improve health seeking behavior and access healthcare instituted by government agencies. The Livelihood program equips young boys and girls, men and women to identify the potential of opportunities and turn them into economic productivity. They provide sewing classes, enroll and train women who otherwise have been under cultural restraints to stay away from income-generating activities.

209 women have economically benefited from Self Help groups organized by Apnalaya. The Education and citizenship program aims to bring together the volunteers from the community so that they have a better understanding of the challenges faced by their community and identify their responsibilities towards it. In 2017, Apnalaya was awarded the Champion Level- GuideStar India Platinum for highest levels of transparency and public accountability.

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founders
Founded in 1991
NGO Leadership

Arun Kumar

areas of operation
Area of Operation
Area of Operation

Maternal health | women

location of work
Location of Work
Location of Work

Maharashtra

Apnalaya has

helped 322 underprivileged people earn a livelihood in FY 17-18

awards
Awards And Recognitions
Awards And Recognitions

2017: Girl Power Awards

2018: Yeh Hai India award

last audited
Last Audited
Last Audited by GiveIndia

December 2018

Program Updates

Program Updates

5 July, 2020

Engagement with Stakeholders on prevention of violence against women and children

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Engagement with Stakeholders on prevention of violence against women and children

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December 2019: The first week of December is celebrated as Apnalaya week. The theme for two events during the week involving Prevention of Violence against Women and Children (PVWC) was Child Sexual Abuse, particularly addressing under-reporting of Protection of Children from Sexual Offenses (POCSO) Act cases in the community. When we approached the Shivaji Nagar police station for real time data on the number of POCSO cases reported, the data was baffling. Not more than 30 cases were reported in the year 2018-2019. This, within a population of roughly 6 lakh people seemed skewed. The PVWC counselling cell, too, had not received any case of child sexual abuse since it began in April 2019. Clearly, this goes on to show that there is a lack of awareness in the community regarding reporting of child sexual abuse. Child sexual abuse in itself is a very sensitive issue, one that people do not wish to talk about or address as it comes with a lot of stigma, shaming and ostracization attached to it. Therefore, this issue was taken up by the PVWC volunteers in order to encourage conversations about CSA and disseminate information about POCSO. Given below is a brief description of the two events.

  1. A networking meeting with 10 organizations: The objective of the networking meeting was to bring together organizations that work on child protection in different capacities in order to build a network as well as a referral and information pool. The volunteers attended the networking meeting on 6th December 2019, with 10 organizations that came together to discuss the barriers to implement POCSO effectively. Discussion ensued at length on the need for collaborating with stakeholders like the police, CWCs etc. as well as collaborating on running an online and offline campaign for the same. The PVWC volunteers spoke about the issues that were contextual to their community like daily wage earning parents leaving their children alone at home puts them at risk or the fact that they were not aware of signs of CSA (child sexual abuse) before they were trained and the lack of knowledge within the community etc.
  2. Baal Suraksha Mela: The aim of the Baal Suraksha Mela was to normalize and educate people about Child sexual abuse, its impact, symptoms and legal procedures. The volunteers belong to the community, which led to the community being more accepting of the sensitive and controversial topic of CSA. The PVWC volunteers underwent a series of meeting sessions for Apnalaya week’s Baal Suraksha Mela till the first week of December. They were trained extensively on the Protection of Children against Sexual Offenses Act. The aim of the Baal Suraksha Mela was to engage the community in conversations around child sexual abuse. It was an attempt to interact with members of the community and bust the myths around CSA and bring the salient features of the POCSO Act to the community. People from the community were invited, especially focussing on stakeholders that work with children like schools, anganwadis etc. Prerana, an organization working on commercial sexual exploitation and Majlis, a pro-bono legal aid organization also had stalls. Prerana’s stall had different activities where participants (community members, attendees) were educated about commercial sexual exploitation, how one can be more vigilant toward such practices in the community etc. The Majlis stall had pro-bono lawyers working on POCSO, debunking myths about court structures, difficulty in accessing justice etc. They handed out contact details and brochures to the community in case they needed any counsel. The members of the community were taken on a journey of myth busting, features of POCSO, roles and responsibilities of the Police, rights of the children, Child welfare Committees and Fast track courts. The local police were also invited. The volunteers were taken to Dharavi on 31st December for a training with LEARN, an organization working with women in unorganized labour. Violence prevention in their community is a major aspect of what they do via volunteerism. The PVWC volunteers interacted with the volunteers from LEARN and also did home visits with them. There was a lot of sharing and interaction among all volunteers regarding roadblocks, success stories and real-life examples of volunteerism as a means to mitigate violence.

19 November, 2019

Counselling sessions extending care and support

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Counselling sessions extending care and support

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22 July, 2019

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Program Update

Counseling center is mainly focusing on strengthening the victims of violence as well as conducting activities with community people to make them aware and capable of taking steps that could prevent domestic violence against women and children. Counseling center is an ongoing facility working 5 days a week from Sunday to Thursday from morning 9.30 till evening 6.30. Total 20 cases were registered and 49 counseling sessions happened during last three months from January 2019 to March 2019. Out of that 20 cases, 9 cases are of Physical abuse, 6 cases are of emotional abuse and 5 cases are of financial abuse caused by husband and in-laws.

Story from the field

Renee was 14 when her case was brought to Apnalaya; her father was abusing her sexually for last two years. Family and community were aware of the incident but were not ready to talk about it, it was, therefore, realized that approaching mother and child would not be easy. Apnalaya approached lawyers to understand legal process in detail. Health team approached mother (sinjani) and child giving education as a reason to meet, as both of them came to the center, counselor sat with the child separately and tried building rapport, Renee was talking about herself and indirectly spoke about her father, In second meeting, play therapy helped her to open up even more. In the third meeting, the mother was counseled and was encouraged to support her daughter. As per the instruction of the lawyers, police were informed and were called to the center. We faced difficulty when Police insisted that the child should be brought to the police station to give the statement, after a lot of effort they sent a lady police in plain clothes to the center. Next day after the statement of the child and mother was recorded child was taken to the hospital for medical check-up where again we had to deal with the behavior of medical staff, in the hospital the client was told to wait, the way doctor started probing the child so insensitively that the counselor had to ask her to be little polite and to not ask questions which is obnoxious for the child. After this child welfare committee came into action, Renee’s father was absconding, therefore, for Renee’s safety, she was sent to shelter home. Continuous follow up was done with CWC and continuous counseling was provided to the mother as the community was against her for not supporting her husband. Her husband is now in the custody of police and has a case going on against him but Renee and her life has changed a lot ,she is the one who was not let to study after 3rd standard by school authority as she was taking more time to understand things in comparison to her classmates but today at her new home (shelter home)she has a tutor who teaches her, her way of talking has changed totally, she is learning her numbers and alphabets, she can also be heard expressing herself in amateur English and using cutlery to have her meal. Her mother goes to work and is managing everything on her own; she is also planning to send her other two children to the same shelter home.

What is the expected total number of beneficiaries in this program for FY18-19? 20
What is the number of beneficiaries/ benefits provided in this program, Year-To-Date 20
Village/City/State where project is located Shivaji Nagar, Govandi, Mumbai
Total Budget for the project for FY18-19 183850
Total Expenses for the project YTD 117455

30 October, 2018

Apnalaya's Update

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Program Update

It is working towards prevention of violence and to empower victims of domestic violence so as they are able to take charge of their lives and rights. Apnalaya is also a government appointed service provider under the Domestic Violence Act 2005. Through adolescent and adult volunteers and the "Sahara Gat" (support groups) members, who are provided trainings to understand and take effective steps to deal with cases related to domestic violence in a non-violent manner.

Family Counselling Centre (FCC) is a heaven for weeping and battle worn women, victims of exploitation, violence, infidelity, deprivation and blackmail. They come from different walks of life. Here they find a friend who listens, counsel and offer help to find strength within themselves to fight and win their legal and personal battles. The cases vary in its duration depending on its complexity from a few months to even years resulting in an amicable resolution or separation as the case may be.

To strengthen the team, a counsellor has joined FCC to evaluate psychosocial aspect of the cases and give more individualized focus.

"Violence Prevention" is a program where all aged (17 and above) women and men from the community are given intensive training for the period of six to eight months to understand and take steps to prevent violence and deal with cases of domestic violence.

Story from the field

Renee (Name change) was 14 when her case was brought to Apnalaya; her father was abusing her sexually for last two years. Family and community were aware of the incident but were not ready to talk about it, it was, therefore, realized that approaching mother and child would not be easy. Apnalaya approached lawyers to understand legal process in detail. Health team approached mother (sinjani) and child giving education as a reason to meet, as both of them came to the centre, counsellor sat with the child separately and tried building rapport, Renee was talking about herself and indirectly spoke about her father, In second meeting, play therapy helped her to open up even more. In the third meeting, the mother was counselled and was encouraged to support her daughter. As per the instruction of the lawyers, police were informed and were called to the centre. We faced difficulty when Police insisted that the child should be brought to the police station to give the statement, after a lot of effort they sent a lady police in plain clothes to the centre. Next day after the statement of the child and mother was recorded child was taken to the hospital for medical check-up where again we had to deal with the behaviour of medical staff, in the hospital the client was told to wait, the way doctor started probing the child so insensitively that the counsellor had to ask her to be little polite and to not ask questions which is obnoxious for the child. After this child welfare committee came into action, Renee's father was absconding, therefore, for Renee's safety, she was sent to shelter home. Continuous follow up was done with CWC and continuous counselling was provided to the mother as the community was against her for not supporting her husband. Her husband is now in the custody of police and has a case going on against him but Renee and her life has changed a lot ,she is the one who was not let to study after 3rd standard by school authority as she was taking more time to understand things in comparison to her classmates but today at her new home (shelter home)she has a tutor who teaches her, her way of talking has changed totally, she is learning her numbers and alphabets, she can also be heard expressing herself in amateur English and using cutlery to have her meal. Her mother goes to work and is managing everything on her own; she is also planning to send her other two children to the same shelter home

Expected total number of beneficiaries in this program for FY18-19 150
Number of beneficiaries/ benefits provided in this program this year 44

30 April, 2018

Domestic abuse survivors reclaim their lives with Apnalaya's help

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The Counseling Center mainly focusses on strengthening the victims of violence as well as conducting activities with community people to make them aware and capable of taking steps that could prevent domestic violence against women and children.

The Counseling Center is an ongoing facility working 5 days a week from Sunday to Thursday from morning 9.30 till evening 6.30. A total of 77 new cases are registered in the counselling center and we could reach up to total 110 beneficiaries during last six months from October 2017 to March 2018. Out of 76 new beneficiaries, 47 cases were of women physically, mentally and financially abused by husband and in-laws.

Beneficiary story:

Renee (name changed) was 14 when her case was brought to Apnalaya; her father was abusing her sexually for the past two years.

Her family and community were aware of the incident but were not ready to talk about it. It was, therefore, realized that approaching the mother and child would not be easy.

Apnalaya approached lawyers to understand the legal process in detail.

The health team approached the mother (Sinjani) and child, giving "education" as a reason to meet. As both of them came to the center, the counselor sat with the child separately and tried building a rapport. Renee talked about herself and indirectly spoke about her father. In the second meeting, play therapy helped her to open up even more. In the third meeting, the mother was counseled and was encouraged to support her daughter.

As per the instruction of the lawyers, police were informed and were called to the center. We faced difficulty when the Police insisted that the child should be brought to the police station to give the statement. After a lot of effort they sent a lady police in plain clothes to the center. Next day after the statement of the child and mother was recorded child was taken to the hospital for medical check-up where again we had to deal with the behaviour of medical staff. In the hospital, the way the doctor started probing the child insensitively, the counselor had to ask her to be a little polite and to not ask questions which is obnoxious for the child.

After this, Child Welfare Committee (CWC) came into action, but Renee's father was absconding. Therefore, for Renee's safety, she was sent to a shelter home.

Continuous follow up was done with CWC and continuous counseling was provided to the mother as the community was against her for not supporting her husband.

13 March, 2018

Unique home-based creche program executed on Women's Day

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International Women's Day was celebrated at Apnalaya by the women of Shivaji Nagar in Mumbai who lead the community as health workers, entrepreneurs, volunteers and influencers. They form the backbone of our integrated community development approach. The women worked with Apnalaya's sustainable model of home-based crèche. The model follows a buddy-system between a pair of women, bringing 100% benefit to the participants by enabling them to become an entrepreneur and a working mother at the same time, while providing safe space for their infants. The model empowers women and benefits their families by increasing family income, bringing women to the workforce and public domain and reducing school drop-outs among older siblings, who otherwise would spend their school hours as caregivers.

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